You may experience problems that challenge a relationship. This can be any kind of relationship. Parent-child relationships, siblings, friends and so on. When even little problems are left to fester they can incubate and grow and become the reason for communication breakdown and distress in what was, and still can be, a spiritually and physically fulfilling relationship.
Whatever the relationship you are in, you might feel you want to seek help or support when you find that talking to friends or family is no longer helpful and you find yourself stuck with the issues you are experiencing.
Accessing counselling from someone like myself enables you to speak openly and freely about your concerns in an environment that is confidential, non judgmental, and safe and allows you to explore your needs and wants, along with your goals.
What to expect?
The thought of coming to therapy for the first time can be nerve-wracking, scary, fear of the unknown. Making the first step to get help is a big one, and the fact you are reading this means you have already made that first positive step to help yourself. It’s not easy but often when you get to this point you are perhaps at crises point, having tired everything else and yet you are still the problem still persists. It’s a brave move to come to therapy, but for almost everyone, it’s the best move they have made.
On your first meeting (having explained the confidential verbal contract we will have between us), I will listen to your story, allowing you to relax and feel comfortable to share the issues you are experiencing. Once we have met, I find clients start to enjoy and can see the benefits of having therapy.
That first session can be for you a little anxious but I hope with my warm, friendly and professional approach you will start to relax and feel able to express how you are feeling and what perhaps you want to get out of counselling.
Each session is 60 minutes long and if you don’t like talking a lot or indeed you find it difficult to do so, then I will try different things like drawing, or mapping out your thoughts. It all depends on what’s right for you. Just sharing your thoughts and feelings with someone else who isn’t involved in the relationship can help you work through your issues.
Counselling can take place in a number of ways at a time to fit in with your life. Face-to-face, Skype/FaceTime, or telephone counselling.
However you experience couples counselling, you can feel reassured that it's confidential and non-judgemental.
How can it help me?
It can be very scary opening up, peeling away the layers of emotions and feelings to understand what is going, but this is where I help and support you. Looking at ways you communicate, being able to manage conflict, argument and rows and if needed, learning more constructive and healthier ways to communicate.
Also, we can explore what a healthy relationship can be for you. In essence, looking at making changes for you in the relationship enabling you to have a happier and healthier relationship.