Sexual Therapy

Sex Therapy addresses sexual issues. It is a behavioural treatment plan, which explores the sexual problems and looks at emotional blocks for couples or individuals, looking at the physiological and psychological issues. In essence, sex therapy means bringing a sexual problem into the open, but in a safe space of a therapy session and exploring ways to deal with the problem. 


Often we don’t acknowledge our sexual difficulties to ourselves, let alone our partners. We internalise them; sex therapy is about eternalising them, taking a step back and asking: what can be done to improve things?

What to expect?


At the introductory session, I always try to establish the sexual difficulties and then invite you return so I can take a detailed history. With this information I work out a treatment plan with realistic goals. Once I have your agreement on the treatment plan, which will include designed tasks for you to do at home individually and together, we would then start the therapy. At the top of my list will be to remove the stress from the situation. When a couple have a sexual problem, what tends to happen is that anxiety builds up and becomes the elephant in the room. I aim to remove this.


Clients come to me with real and difficult issues. Opening up about their sexual feelings, they become very vulnerable and I'm conscious how difficult this can be. Due to this, I try to make therapy as easy as possible. Once we have worked how we are going to over come issues, the journey you embark upon will hopefully be both enlightening and fun. After all, sex is about connecting with your partner and having fun and that’s what I like to think I offer my clients as well  as solving the sexual issue, or certainly helping them to decide what’s right for them.

Counselling can take place in a number of ways at a time to fit in with your life. Face-to-face, Skype/FaceTime, or telephone counselling.

However you experience couples counselling, you can feel reassured that it's confidential and non-judgemental.

An Integrative Approach to Sexual Therapy


Using an integrative approach, enables me to choose the most appropriate therapies for my clients. Using Cognitive Behavioural Therapy, Psychodynamic, Systemic and Humanistic therapy ensures that I am client-centred and that my treatment plans are within the context of the literature and evidence base for the treatment of specific difficulties. This is especially relevant working as a sexual therapist because I am aware that psychological and sexual issues frequently arise together. Due to the complexity of some of the cases, it is important that I'm able to make an in-depth assessment and formulate a suitable intervention programme in order to successfully assess and resolve issues for the client. Implementing this assessment helps me to ascertain any risks either for the client, a third party or the therapist. This can highlight any organic diseases such as sexually transmitted infections (STI), which could be contributing to the sexual problem.

Understanding biological causes of behaviour are essential when working in this speciality. For example, low levels of testosterone may well have an effect on male sexual desire. Equally, Type 2 diabetes could be linked to erectile dysfunction (ED). Excessive masturbation could be another contributing factor of ED, which needs to be considered. Similarly, when working with patients who are taking SSRI (selective serotonin re uptake inhibitors), I'm aware there can be side effects such as decreased sexual interest (libido), decreased physiological arousal (including lubrication in women and erection in men), and delayed or blocked orgasm. I have also worked with clients who have suffered the after-effects of cancer, clients with heart disease and clients who have had surgery.

Sexual issues that I  work with


  • Erectile Dysfunction

  • Premature Ejaculation

  • Retarded/Delayed Ejaculation

  • Sexual pain problems; Vaginismus (Painful or impossible intercourse)

  • Dyspareunia (painful intercourse)

  • Anorgasmia (Unable to reach orgasm)

  • Sexual Aversion

  • Differences in sex drives between partners

  • Gender Dysphoria

  • Sexual identity issues

  • Sexual problems arising out of altered body appearance or function, including surgery (breast or genital treatment for conditions such as cancer, stomas, scarring).

  • Sexual difficulties following sexual traumas including sexual assault, sexual abuse

  • Bisexuality